It’s not supposed to be something that’s just a fabulous wedding party and then easily discarded after 72, or 18 days, or even just a year!What is going on in Hollywood? 2011 has been the year of considering marriage a joke among many celebrities. British songstress Sinead O’Connor just announced she’s ending her marriage to Barry Herridge, the “Nothing Compares 2 U” singer, after just 18 days of wedded life. Meanwhile, Katy Perry was spotted on a remote beach in Kauai without her husband Russell Brand or her wedding ring on Dec. 26 AND she only just celebrated her first wedding anniversary on Oct. 23.
Just a year ago, Katy and Russell had a HUGE wedding, complete with elephants walking down the red carpet and a Bollywood-themed party in India.
Kim Kardashian, of course, infamously filed for divorce from Kris Humphries 72 days after her $10 million “fairytale” wedding replete with three Vera Wang wedding dresses.
Then there was Ashton Kutcher, who threw discretion out the window and allegedly brazenly bedded blonde Sarah Leal on his sixth wedding anniversary. Then he seemed clueless as to why then-wife Demi Moore, didn’t want to stay in the marriage.
Of course, how can celebrities possibly take marriage seriously when the ex-Governor of the state of California, Arnold Schwarzenegger, was discovered having an affair this year with the family’s housekeeper, Mildred Baena and it turned out that he fathered her son, Joseph, now 13?
From Tiger Woods to Jesse James, who cheated on Sandra Bullock repeatedly right under her nose, to Kobe Bryant to Kelsey Grammer, who actually secretly lived with his mistress in New York City for months before informing his wife, Camille, that he wasn’t into their marriage anymore — celebs have repeatedly made a mockery out of marriage.But Katy, Kim, Sinead, Kelsey, Ashton and Arnold, just think about this — no one FORCED you to get married. You didn’t have to tie the knot. And you shouldn’t have said marriage vows if you didn’t fully intend to stay married …without any mistresses — until your last day on Earth.
Marriage is meant to be the ultimate commitment. You’re signing up to be a partner and BFF for life. That’s supposed to benefit YOU! It’s also supposed to benefit any children you may have, by giving them the emotional and financial security they deserve.
Instead, you all decided other things — whether they were women or fame or fun, were more important than deep loyal love and commitment.
Now, even though Arnold Schwarzenegger behaved abominably to Maria, I have to commend him for refusing to throw in the towel on his marriage. He apparently is working hard on being a different, non-cheating Arnold and is laboring to win Maria back. Likewise, I commend Maria for considering taking him back.
My point is: Maria and now Arnold do realize that marriage and family are not jokes. Their four children will be happier and better off if Arnold can mend his ways and he and Maria can be together.
I’ve been married (shockingly) for 28 years and I can sure tell you that it’s very worthwhile to stick it out.
So Katy and Russell — are you sure you should throw in the towel after a year? Did your love really evaporate that quickly? Are you sure that with compromise, you can’t work it out? Sinead — I don’t know what to say to you…and Kim, your decision appears to be firm.
But maybe Katy and Russell — there is still hope. Remember, marriage is commitment, not a joke!